It was 10 days since her husband, Eric Greitens, and Sheena Greitens was terrified.
In that period, she wrote to a family lawyer in a June 14, 2018, email, Eric Greitens had been violent twice to one of his sons, lost his temper repeatedly and refused to admit his actions were a source of the family鈥檚 problems.
He could go from calm to enraged 鈥渋n a flash,鈥� she wrote.
An example was his reaction to an email to their marriage counselor.
鈥淚 received an irate call from Eric, who suggested I had deliberately and maliciously sent accusations of child abuse to a) the St. Louis Circuit Attorney, b)special prosecutor Jean Peters Baker, and c)the St. Louis Post-Dispatch, and that I was trying to stab him in the back, that I was 鈥榟ateful and disgusting,鈥� nasty,鈥� 鈥榲icious,鈥� and a 鈥榣ying bitch,鈥欌�� she wrote. 鈥淭his seemed to me to verge onto open paranoia.鈥�
So she put the kids in the car, she said in an interview with The Independent, drove to the airport in St. Louis and called her husband to tell him she was going to visit her parents.
She says she fled because she didn鈥檛 know if he had access to a firearm and feared he would kill the family if he followed through on his threats to kill himself.
鈥淭hat became a concern in June of 2018,鈥� Sheena Greitens said. 鈥淭hat was why I left with the children. His anger was now being directed at me and the children and I could not guarantee their safety.鈥�
That email, along with others from those weeks following Eric Greitens鈥� departure from office, were provided to The Independent this week by Sheena Greitens and her attorney.
She said there are two reasons she provided the emails and agreed break her silence with an interview about her marriage.
One is his repeated accusations by her ex-husband that she is lying in their ongoing child custody case in Boone County.
The other is that the fear she felt in those days was rekindled by the video, posted to her ex-husband鈥檚 Senate campaign social media pages Monday depicting a SWAT-style raid.
In March, she filed an affidavit accusing Eric Greitens of , and stating that in the months before his resignation, he became so unstable that his access to firearms had to be limited. Two weeks later, she filed a second sworn statement that she had to back up her affidavit.
鈥淭he claim that this is the first time the concerns are being raised is just dishonest,鈥� she said in the interview. 鈥淚 have oriented my life around trying to address these concerns since 2018.鈥�
Eric Greitens on Tuesday and added that 鈥渆very normal person around the state of Missouri saw that is clearly a metaphor.鈥�
Sheena Greitens said she received an email with graphically violent threats within hours after it appeared.
鈥淎ll it takes is one abnormal person who takes this seriously to be a threat,鈥� she said.
Eric Greitens鈥� attorney, Gary Stamper, declined a request to discuss the emails.
鈥淎s I have always said, these allegations were fully discussed with objective professionals who are mandatory reporters,鈥� Stamper wrote in an email to The Independent. 鈥淣o one felt it rose to the level of abuse, except Sheena.
In an April 8 filing, Stamper wrote that Sheena Greitens had lied to the court, either in the affidavit by claiming the abuse allegations were raised with a court-appointed mediator or when she signed the divorce agreement in 2020 stating the couple had 鈥渄isclosed all material facts鈥� for determining a parenting plan.
鈥淚n fact, mother did not share this allegation of abuse with the mediator,鈥� Stamper wrote. 鈥淚f mother had reported abuse or suspected abuse to a mediator, said mediator was legally bound to report it. No such report was made.鈥�
The court case
On Thursday, some of those fears were before Associate Circuit Judge Leslie Schneider in Columbia. Sheena Greitens鈥� attorney, Helen Wade, asked for a statement from Eric Greitens that he did not mean his supporters should hunt his family.
鈥淚 am disappointed that Eric isn鈥檛 here today because we were hoping that we would be able to get him to make a statement clearly denouncing the use of any sort of violence against my client,鈥� Wade said
The issue before Schneider is whether jurisdiction over child custody decisions should be moved to Texas, where Sheena Greitens lives now, or remain in Boone County, where their divorce was filed in 2020.
The divorce came after a final separation in August 2018, Sheena Greitens said.
鈥淚 told the professionals who were involved, and when that didn鈥檛 address my concerns, in August 2018 I did the only other thing I knew to do, and started applying for jobs that would let the kids and I leave the state,鈥� she said.
The case is coming to a head, with a July 15 trial date, while Eric Greitens is looking to make a political comeback in the Republican primary for the Senate seat held by Roy Blunt, who is retiring.
He has led most polls against a field that also includes Attorney General Eric Schmitt, U.S. Reps. Vicky Hartzler and Billy Long, state Senate President Pro Tem Dave Schatz, St. Louis attorney Mark McCloskey and 15 other lesser-known candidates.
The case had received little public attention since the Greitens divorced. That changed when Sheena Greitens filed the affidavit with abuse allegations.
Eric Greitens responded with a Facebook video where he said the accusations were intended to distract the public from news one of the investigators of the 2018 criminal charges .
鈥淚n this very week, RINOS come out with a brand new set of allegations against me, which they claim are from four years ago,鈥� he said.
And on April 5, Tim Parlatore, a Washington attorney hired by Eric Greitens, claimed his client had the documents and photos to prove Sheena Greitens lied in her sworn statements about the abuse.
鈥淪heena Greitens lied when she said 鈥榯hey were reported to multiple lawyers, therapists, and our mediator, in 2018 and afterward,鈥欌�� Parlatore said .
The documents she provided The Independent show that was wrong, she said.
鈥淓ric knows full well that these concerns were reported, because he was copied on my emails and he sat in these discussions,鈥� Sheena Greitens said. 鈥淭his claim, that I never reported what happened, is something he鈥檚 knowingly misrepresented from the start.鈥�
The emails, she said, prove that.
The emails
The documents provided to The Independent describe behavior that Sheena Greitens placed in several broad categories 鈥� violent and manipulative behavior towards her and their children; a 鈥減attern of sucide threats and firearm confiscation鈥�; and his 鈥渞esistance to therapy/psychological help.鈥�
鈥淪o let me be really, really clear: I am scared at Eric鈥檚 recent behavior,鈥� Sheena Greitens wrote in her June 7 email to a marriage counselor. 鈥淚 am especially scared because I do not hear any acknowledgement from Eric that this behavior on his part has produced a negative emotional impact, or understanding of what that might be.鈥�
In that first week after resignation, Eric Greitens was already planning his political resurrection, Sheena Greitens said in an interview, while she wanted to get out of the public eye, where she was never comfortable.
Sheena Greiens holds a doctorate from Harvard University and is a scholar in Asian, and especially Korean, affairs. In 2018 she was employed on the faculty of the University of Missouri and decided to seek another post.
鈥淗e blamed me for his resignation,鈥� she said. 鈥淚 had serious safety concerns. And I thought that, given the absolute public wreckage of our family life, that it would be better for the boys to grow up in a place where they weren鈥檛 viewed through the prism of their father鈥檚 scandals.
Eric Greitens began carrying a gun in January 2018, she wrote in the June 14 email, after KMOV first reported his 2015 sexual relationship with a hairdresser in a with a nude photograph.
He had revealed the affair in late 2015, Sheena Greitens wrote.
That was also the first time he spoke about suicide.
He brought it up again after the KMOV story, she wrote, saying that he said 鈥渋t would look like an accident to the kids and everyone.鈥�
鈥淗e told me in January 2018, that he had taken the photo in question, but told me that there would be legal consequences for me if I ever disclosed that to anybody,鈥� she said in the interview.
His behavior caused concerns among his staff in the governor鈥檚 office, she wrote, and in February, after he was indicted, his general counsel Lucinda Luetkemeyer, 鈥渞equested that the governor鈥檚 security detail remove any access to firearms that he might have via their vehicles, because she was concerned about his stability in the aftermath of the indictment.鈥�
In late May, she wrote, Greg Favre, deputy director of the Department of Public Safety and a close friend of Eric Greitens, was visiting them.
鈥淚 happened to go into the hall and see him removing the bag that Eric鈥檚 firearm was in, which Favre said he thought was best 鈥榦ut of an abundance of caution,鈥欌�� she wrote.
Eric Greitens went to meet Greg Favre for a workout on June 10. She asked Farve in a text if he had returned the firearm but got no response.
Neither Luetkemeyer nor Favre could be reached for comment.
Phone records
Along with providing the 2018 emails, Sheena Greitens allowed Wade to show The Independent the phone records produced from Eric Greitens鈥� attorney, Gary Stamper.
Stamper initially sought records for phones owned by Karl Rove, former Greitens aide Austen Chambers, Sheena Greitens sister and one other unidentified person. When the subpoenas were filed, a Washington D.C. attorney, Tim Parlatore, where he said the records would 鈥渟how what happened to bring us to this point.鈥�
The request for Rove鈥檚 records was dropped before it could be argued in court and Schneider granted only the subpoena for Sheena Greitens鈥� phone records for the period Feb. 1 to March 30. There are several February phone calls to Chambers and to her sister, and calls after the release of the March affidavit to her family.
Sheena Greitens is a frequent traveler to Washington for her post with the American Enterprise Institute.
鈥淭hat communication is not about Eric,鈥� Sheena Greitens said. 鈥淲e would all really like to move on from the chaos that Eric caused in our family.鈥�
The phone records also show calls with a handful of journalists and opinion writers. She was in Washington the week that President Joe Biden and Chinese President Xi Jinping . The calls all , Sheena Greitens said.
One of the calls was an appearance on .
The accusations of a conspiracy are another way to manipulate and demean her, she said.
鈥淥ne of the things that鈥檚 frustrating about this,鈥� Sheena Greitens said, 鈥渋s that Eric has taken normal communications with my family and normal things like me going to my office in Washington, D.C., to do my job and tried to spin them into something sinister.鈥�
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